Scheana Shay responded to Katie Maloney calling her a “male sympathizer.”
During an episode of the Scheananigans podcast, the Vanderpump Rules OG admitted that Katie’s comment bothered her.
“So, I’m not gonna lie. At first, I was a bit annoyed when I heard what she said on the After Show – especially as I heard about it while we were both on set filming his project together.”
“But,” continued the Bravo TV personality continued, “I felt like she was just doing the Katie thing and trying to get a jab in there.”
Scheana thought deeply about being called a male sympathizer. “I kind of better understand where she’s coming from and forming that opinion, I can see why she would feel that way.”
One of Scheana’s best friends:
“At the core of my friendship with Katie, there’s a lot of love. So, when you peel back all of the layers – as much as we’ve gone at each other – we do genuinely love each other.” That’s why Scheana was hurt when she was called a male sympathizer by Katie.
Katie “has a sharp tongue. I can be a people pleaser at times which gets me in trouble, but I think that those layers have been built up from negative experiences we’ve had with each other over the 12 years of our friendship.”
“I feel like if Katie and I went to couples therapy we would be in a really good place. I think if we had someone come in and just kind of mediate on how to explain things to each other that could help.”
“I also think Katie has always been triggered by my closeness to Tom Sandoval, who she has always had a bad relationship with.”
“She never really liked him from day one, so I think that my closeness with Sandoval is also largely built on who he was for me and he was there for me when all of the girls in this group bullied me in the beginning.”
Scheana finally sees Katie’s perspective on her being a male sympathizer:
“I felt like I had fought so hard for my place in this group for so long and my friendship with Sandoval to Katie, I think for her was almost validation of his abusive behavior towards her.”
“It also may be reminds her of her marital struggles with [Tom] Schwartz, where it was kind of a common theme where Schwartz didn’t really have her back. He tended to stick up for everyone else other than his wife, which was not OK and I can imagine after years with that would do to someone and how that would make them feel, especially when it was it came to Sandoval.”
Another reason Scheana comes off as a male sympathizer to Katie is because “Schwartz was usually against Katie to be Team Tom. I can’t imagine how hard that was for her.”
“But, after five months of us reconnecting and rebuilding our friendship without Sandoval in the picture, I can now understand why that moment of me struggling in grief over losing this friendship could be triggering to her.”
Self-reflective Scheana:
“Like I said, that’s just where my people pleasing tendencies get me in trouble.”
“I don’t want to make anyone feel bad but in the process I make things worse and I make everyone feel bad. That’s never my intention and I am working on that.”
“It’s hard to rewire our brains decades of patterned behavior and I know I will not have a perfect record moving forward, but all the people out there I want you to recognize it. I’m actively working on this.”
Scheana on being called a male sympathizer:
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